When to set your goals | Goal setting stages

You should start the process of goal setting as soon as possible if you have not yet set your goal. The ideal time to set your goal is much younger age. If you have any children in your proximity, who are yet to set goals. You can guide them with the help of their parents.

Have you crossed your younger days? No issues yet. You still can succeed in life and reach wherever you want to be from wherever you are right now. you have to apply the guidelines and move forward. More details are on the other pages. Read them too.

This is actually adult content. We do not expect children to be reading this page. Of course, the period of goal setting starts at that stage. I urge the adults reading this to inspire and create communication channels with the children around them with the appropriate content to guide them. Part of our motivation is centered around the motivation generated by us in others. You should recall that you can begin your journey only if you clear on the destination. This is the purpose of goal setting.

There are various times when the goals can be set. Generally, the earlier the better for getting to the top.

Children with internet connected devices
Children with internet

The goal-setting stages can start at a very young age. A child’s brain is developed almost completely by the age of seven. It is in this period that deep imprints upon the brain are made by various factors. The child is introduced to new surroundings, people, food, habits, language, etc. by various individuals in the child’s life. The child gets the hang of its life as learns to cope with daily routines in various periods of day and surroundings in favorable and unfavorable situations.

It begins to develop tastes and preferences. It learns to avoid and engage in certain activities and situations. On certain deep imprints, the child can develop strong desires which will develop into goals in life. This may make them into great artists, athletes, scientists, big businessman or criminals. This is because the deep and strong desires turn into goals. At this juncture, traits may lead to addictive personalities.

More efforts get focused on desires as a result. Nowadays the nuclear families are the trait and not mother, father and other siblings. With mushrooming of various devices, the child is left to be bombarded with information from the digital media.

By the time the child comes to be 15 years old, he already knows the world. In contrast, his parents may not have amassed much knowledge even up to the age of 50. The older generation would have to be interested in various subjects and have taken the effort to have visited a couple of libraries to obtain knowledge. Now the boy or girl has the internet available at their command for information. The digital information is bombarded on them from a wide range of devices like television, mobiles, tablets, etc.

By now, this child who has become a teenager is exposed to so many individuals who are capable of inspiring them to become or not become like them. Some teenagers may have by now reaffirmed their desires. Some smarties may have managed to convert them into goals. If so, it is easy to convert these goals into reality. If elders have observed these and are in communication with the teenager, they should provide studied guidance.

Some smart children begin to learn to convert their desires to goals. Though this subject is a point of such wide discussion, only 2% of the total world population does this. This is that 2% controlling 98 % of the world’s population.

Now the desires should be written down.  This written down list should be seen every day with great concentration and focus. Ways and means will arrive for the child. Some children are able to able to get their list and focus on the stage before the high school level itself. These children should be identified and assisted by the necessary support and inspiration.

Look at this example-

 I want to run a marathon

I want to be a champion marathoner.

I want to teach other kids to become marathoners.

I should be able to look after my parents.

I want to read comics.

I want to create comics.

My ability to create comics will be my sustainable source of good income for me and my family members.

I should be capable to provide for all my family members.

Let us look at another example-

I want to ski around the world.

I want to ski in the Alps.

I will learn to ski and get myself a good outfit.

I will get physically fit, find a good trainer.

I will win the winter Olympics.

I will set up my own ski academy.

I will have students from around the world training with me.

This will enable me to help me to sustain my family pretty well.

All of us at home will have all the good things in life.  

Now with a little focus, the child enters high school.

As the subjects of study are being chosen (this should be as per the merits and interests of the child and not the parent), the child has obtained more focus on the tasks for the specific period. After high school, the child is almost ready or facing life on its own by going for a job or to college to do graduation.

Assuming the child has finished high school successively as planned with the chosen electives, it is ready to an extent to take on the next step.

 Please bear in your mind that these goals set at this stage can be changed or modified during the lifeline for various compelling reasons.

This stage where the child is on the way to the senior school stage, the child has to learn to be disciplined.

This discipline will enable the child to focus on and visualize the future. This will ensure a strong foundation for the child’s future.

Now is the stage for concentrating on the development of various life skills. The most important one being “Communication skills” like writing, reading and speaking. In life when the interactions with people increase over time, one should be able to grasp the ideas of others and be able to convey own ideas too. Human’s entire life is an exchange of ideas.

This happens throughout life at all stages. This exchange of thoughts between individuals is part of various transactions as in sales, banking, teaching, business to name few. The child needs to learn to analyze and learn this process. This is a separate field of study called- Transactional analysis.

The whole life of the human is a series of transactions, even between the family members.

Most importantly, it is at this stage, the child learns about money in life. This happens from the age of seven. Some people will say, money is everything, some will say money is evil and cause of all trouble in life. Also apart from humans, the electronic media is also bombarding the child with all sense and nonsense.

All these patterns and thoughts become ingrained in the brain. It is based on these, that the child begins to react to various circumstances in life. The child develops an attitude towards money and most relationships are based on this.

The child’s/young adult’s attitude begins to be shaped on this financial blueprint ingrained within.

Fortunately, these blueprints can be consciously modified at any stage in life. It is this financial blueprint that brings about the pattern and limits of earning on this young adult.

In all these stages, the elders who are guiding this child have to ensure that the child does not cultivate any negative blueprints.  These may also depend on the culture of the place the child is growing. The positives and negatives of each culture differ based on each locality.

Now it can be concluded that the micro and macro components as mentioned in the above article are responsible for the child’s path to getting to the top in life.